Everybody Has An Opinion

I have learned something....once you get pregnant, everybody feels that it's now appropriate to tell you what's right and not right about the choices you make in living your life. Somehow, because it's concerning a little person, people think they have that right to suddenly go there. I'll be honest, I'm getting VERY sick of it.

I have been gracious and always say "thank you" but newsflash, your brain doesn't leave when you grow a person! I'm still smart and I still research and I will obviously make the best choices I deem fit regarding my child. I've wanted this child more than anything, so why would anyone think that I don't?

I am getting emails about why this daycare isn't good, what's wrong with this one, how I should spend ALLLL this extra money for this one, and it's really overwhelming me. They all contradict each other! And the ONLY facility I feel good about? I just got an email about that one saying how terrible it is.

I'm just upset. I am doing the best I can and EVERYONE HAS TO HAVE AN OPINION. I think I need to just shut it all out and start relying on my instincts. They have always been dead on and I need to stop relying on opinion, alone. I need to go with my gut.

I'm also learning that people are RUDE! "Wow, he's really big" or "Wow, you're brave for wearing a swimsuit." and "You were so skinny in that picture!" OMG! Have you forgotten that pregnant ladies have feelings? Seriously?! SO rude.

I know people are just trying to "help" but if I don't ask for advice, I don't need to hear it. I'm a smart girl, let me learn on my own!! AND, not everything I talk about needs a response about "Maybe you could..." or "Maybe you should..." or "I'd do this..." JUST LISTEN! Am I asking for advice? I don't need solutions to everything. I'm smart and will figure it out! I really think I want to get one of those t-shirts that says, LEAVE ME ALONE. I can't even walk across the room to get a drink of water without several people coming up to me about something related to what I should do about this or that.

I've always had a lot of people in my life and I've always had a lot of friends. This *IS* a blessing but right now I'm just feeling overwhelmed. And I apologize for the bitchy post. Let's be honest, no one wants to hear someone bitch but I'm hoping that getting it out here will allow me to smile next time and say "thank you" as I always have. I just realize that I've entered the world of opinions, and once he's here, it will continue with parenting. Most of the time I'm fine, but sometimes it gets to me, especially concerning serious things like the care of my child.

Going with my gut! I really do believe that mommy knows best.

RANT. OVER.

Comments

  1. Christina TMay 30, 2014 at 9:26 AM

    Good for you for voicing how you FEEL! You are entitled to do that, you know?! Just because someone thinks they somehow know more because they have a child doesn't mean they do. Ignore them, do what works best for you and Adam, and forget the naysayers. Either they will support you or they won't.

    People are generally know it all jerks.

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